Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Becoming a Better Mother

In my Patriarchal Blessing it talks about how important it is for me to continue my education after High School. It says that it will help me become a better Mother. I have often wondered how getting my Business Administration Degree would help me as a Mother.


In my Business Management class we have been learning about self-management and how that can help you more effectively control yourself and  those you manage. Yesterday I had to write a paper on reacting vs. responding. I had never really thought about the differences of these two words before. Reacting is a automatic and an irrational response to a situation. Most of the time this results in a negative outcome where feelings are hurt. I found that I do this often with my kids. They will get into something they are not supposed to or fight with each other and I immediately react and yell at them, give them time outs, and be very dramatic. (And I wonder where Sophie gets the drama from?)

But responding is taking a minute to asses the situation and calm down. You ask yourself if this is really a big deal? And is it worth hurting feelings or relationships? Then you can more effectively deal with the situation and it is better for both parties involved. I decided to put this to the test yesterday.

Sophie likes to hold her little mirror while she brushes her hair. Yesterday The girls were both holding onto it screaming at each other. I immediately wanted to react and take it away from them and say "Now neither of you can have it!" But I wanted to respond so I calmly had them hand me the mirror and I explained to Sophie that Lydia likes to be just like her and loves to do things with her and she wasn't trying to take the mirror to be mean. I asked her if it would be a good idea and more fun if Lydia held the mirror for her while she brushed and then she could ask to trade. It was like magic they started laughing and trading and brushing each others hair. (I understand that this will not happen all of the time).

But I found that I was more patient and the girls acted better and were much more willing do do things that I had asked because I hadn't yelled at them all day. And I felt better because I wasn't so frustrated.


Sophie has been obsessed with winning lately. And it is a huge deal if she doesn't win. Every night when we go brush our teeth she yells "I'm going to  win!!" and runs to the bathroom. If someone else beats her it is the end of the word. We have talked to her several times about how winning isn't important and we don't always win but we can try harder next time. None of that has helped at all. No one else is allowed to win in her mind. Chad and I were at a loss nothing was getting through to her. Until yesterday...

Sophie and Lydia were in the bathtub and I said it was time to get out. Sophie jumped up climbed out and said "I win!" And after all of the responding I had been doing all day it hit me on what to do. I looked at Sophie and said "That's good Sophie but what if the winner was the one that stayed in the tub the longest? That means Lydia is a winner too. You are both winners for doing different things."

She seemed to contemplate it and I was a little shocked she didn't whine and say "no I'm the winner!!"

And then that night when we went to brush our teeth Sophie said "Hey everyone lets all run to the bathroom and all be the winners!"

I am so grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who truly knows me. How he understands my needs. I have been so blessed and continue to be amazed at the many moments in my life where I feel close to Him. I am so grateful to be a Mother and am so glad that He is there to help me become better.



Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Finally

I never thought I would be excited to see my little girl with messy hair. But when she woke up from her nap and looking like this...



I was extactic because it means her hair is getting longer!

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Grocery Store Treat

Growing up my Mom always let us pick out a treat when we went grocery shopping with her. Most of the time it was a doughnut. I still to this day have not had an old fashion doughnut as good as the ones at the Safeway in Lakeport. But I always loved going with my mom to the grocery store (and not just for the treat) and I think I have that mentality instilled in me. With the girls they prefer fruit snacks. Sophie has asked for a doughnut a couple of times and I tell her she can have that or fruit snacks. Fruit snacks always prevail.

Sophie can quickly grab the one she wants but Lydia it is a serious decision that sometimes she has to sit down for and contemplate...


And Sophie always shows her all of her options....


But in the end Lydia always picks Super Mario.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Our Hopeful Garden

We are trying it again this year but with a new tactic. Last year we attempted to grow a garden all from seeds which ended sadly. This year we decided to buy the plants that way if we kill them we can at least return them and try again without having to completely start over.

Sophie and Lydia helped us prepare the ground...



Lydia loved it but Sophie didn't last too long. She says she is afraid of getting dirt in her shoes. So she prefers to stand on the porch and supervise from afar...


I told her that dirt is not going to hurt her but she says she is afraid...OK. So then I tell her we can put her tennis shoes on and then dirt wont get in. Gasp! How dare I say that! She says "no Mom I love my Heels!" I am not sure where she gets this.


This year we planted artichokes, cantaloupe, honeydew, strawberries, and we are trying green beans from seeds along the wall. I already had a scare yesterday. They had been in the ground a whole 6 hours before my artichoke looked dead...ahh! But after calling my mom I was able to revive it. Here's to hoping our garden grows!

Friday, April 13, 2012

Spring Wreath

Someday I will make a new wreath but for now I am still just decorating my current one. This time I wanted to try and use things I had around the house. So I decided to make fabric daisies for spring...


I think they turned out pretty good considering the tutorial said to sew them together but I was not patient enough to do that...hot glue is my best friend. :)

Thursday, April 12, 2012

Easter

My sister in law made us a fun little laminated picture of the tomb and Christ for Easter last year to help tell the story of the Resurrection. You can slide Christ into the tomb an move a rock in front of it. Sophie is really good at telling the story and Lydia loves to play with it. The other day she was playing with it and she slid Christ into the tomb and slid the rock over it and then said "3 days" and slid the rock away and slid Christ out of the tomb. It was so cute.

On Easter morning the girls woke up to some fun toys in their Easter Baskets...




They especially loved to new jump ropes they got...



And they wore their cute Easter Dresses Grandma Clayton made for them!




That was the best pictures we could get. Lydia did not want to cooperate. But with a couple of m&ms I got her to sit for a minute.

After church we headed to Grandma Miller's for some yummy food and a Easter Egg Hunt. There were eggs everywhere. I think we had close to 300 eggs...






After the egg hunt on Saturday Lydia got it figured out on Sunday that you just pick up the eggs and then open them later. So she got a few more eggs than just one.

After it was all done Sophie showed me her overflowing basket. I couldn't believe how many she had gotten. I counted 44 eggs and that was after I gave a couple of handfuls away to some of the other kids!



Her bunny head on her basket fell off in the middle of the excitement but she was still one happy girl!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Saturday Easter Fun

Saturday was our Ward Easter Brunch. The primary was in charge and the kids sang their song they have been working on Gethsemane. Sophie was so excited and has been practicing a lot. She knows the whole song except she has a hard time with the last verse. She is always singing it. She just loves primary...

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After we headed to Grandma and Grandpa Clayton's house where they had a ton of fun things to do!
Sam and Dallin came over and did a egg hunt with the girls...



Lydia did not quite get the concept. She was just content with the first egg she picked up which she immediatley opened and ate the yummy gummy snacks...


She wasnt a fan of the robin eggs...


But she loved finding the gummys...

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Then they got to dye some Easter eggs...




And decorate some yummy sugar cookies...



And then make some yummy ressurection rolls!






Friday, April 6, 2012

Headband Holder

Sophie is in a bit of a headband obsession right now. She has to wear one everyday. We have collected quite a few and they had just been stuffed in a drawer so it made it hard for Sophie to find the one she wanted. So I decided to make a holder for them.



I just took a oatmeal container and covered it in fabric. The headbands fit perfectly around it. And I put all of the plain headbands for Lydia inside...

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Stories

Lydia and Sophie love to read. Whenever we are at Grandma Miller's Lydia is always grabbing a book off of the shelf and handing it to Grandma to read. I took them to the library the other day to pick up some new books. They have asked me to read them to them at least 10 times a day. Daddy got off work a little earlier yesterday and so they got to ask him to read the books several times...



Lydia likes to copy Daddy. He laid on the floor so she had to. The other day Chad was brushing his teeth with her and he had one hand leaning on the wall. So Lydia leaned one of her hands on the wall too while brushing her teeth. Sadly I didn't have the camera close it was too cute.



She also likes to copy Sophie. So once she saw Sophie lay on Daddy to read she had to do it too.

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Wednesday, April 4, 2012

7 Days of Easter

I found an idea on pinterest to teach kids the story of Easter. It is called the 7 Days of Easter. You take plastic Easter eggs and fill them with different things representing the Easter story like bread (the sacrament) or a small nail (Crucifixion). They open one egg up a night and read the scripture that goes with the object. It is actually a 12 Days Of Easter but she has a shortened version for a week.


I did two of each egg so that Sophie and Lydia could have their own. (I just knew there would be issues). Monday night was our first night and they really liked it. Sophie has to try and find the right number and Lydia was excited to find a piece of bread in hers the first night which she immediately ate...and then spit out because it was stale. The website for this activity is here. This would probably be fun shortening it more and opening a couple every night too.

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Swimming Fun

I know it is the first of April but when you live in the desert the pool looks inviting pretty quickly. So we headed to Grandma and Grandpa Millers and went swimming. The water was a little cold...



They weren't sure if they dared go in after putting their feet in. But then Lydia decided it was fun and they both played in the lagoon happily...


Grandma also bought some really fun beach chairs for the grand kids to lounge by the pool. The girls loved them...



When I asked Lydia to look at me and say cheese she walked up to me and said "Cheese!" right in my face...

That works...

They spent quite a bit of time sitting in all of the chairs. Sophie preferred the pink one of course but Lydia thought it was a game to run and sit in all of them...

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I love how Lydia just shruggs her shoulders after Sophie crashes..haha (probably because it happens a lot so its like "Sophie fell again oh well shes good")